The mind is a fragile and fickle thing, and without sounding too esoteric, it’s remarkable how much impact our thoughts have on our lives.
For instance, I have just had my second epileptic seizure in two weeks, and the reason I share this is because this is something I can choose to look at in a number of different ways. One way is to be super bummed out about it, and be sad that now I have to go on medication,
Another way to look it is to say that now I’ll be free from the large seizures as well as the smaller absence tics that I’ve had for the last 15 years, which has severely impacted my life, and that I now get to be rid of which is a massive positive.
The idea that we can look at things any way we choose is true for everything that happens at work, in our relationship, and with our children and family.
In Ryan Holidays masterpiece The Obstacle Is The Way he writes about how much we can change our lives by changing how we look at the events that shape our lives, and the point at which I’ve been able to use it most succinctly is with my condition.
I honestly feel happy that now I have a tangible diagnosis as opposed to a general, less treatable form of neurological condition which is simply a disturbance in everyday life.
The reason I write about this is because you and I can use this in all aspects of our lives. For instance – if you have bad things happen at work, you might use that as an opportunity to evaluate your work situation and find a job that is better suited to your skills and desires. Likewise if your relationship has become derailed it might be time to take a long, hard look at that aspect of your life.
This is far from easy, but that is exactly the reason why so few people do it, and why it is so valuable.
At the end of the day we all get to choose our reaction to the events that happen in our lives, and this realization is one of the most profound ideas I’ve come across.
If we make an effort to implement this in our lives, we can change almost anything we want for the better.